You are worried that your loved one’s drinking is getting out of control, and on top of that they just said something about their drinking that you aren’t sure is the truth.
Do not worry. You are not alone. Many people struggle to deal with their alcoholic loved one’s lies; our Florida rehab is here to help you distinguish between fact and fiction.
Why Do Alcoholics Lie?
First of all, before you start picking out their lies, it is important to know why your loved one is lying. There are two types of lies that alcoholics tell. There are the lies they tell you and then there are the lies they tell themselves.
The lies that alcoholics tell you are usually for what they believe to be for your benefit. They do not want you worrying about their drinking so, instead, they downplay or lie about it altogether. They may also be ashamed of their drinking and not want their loved one to know the extent of their problems.
Along with lying to you, there are the lies alcoholics tell themselves. These lies are usually because the alcoholic is in denial about their drinking problem. Admitting that you have a problem can be hard, so alcoholics make excuses when it comes to their drinking. For many people with drinking problems, it is often easier to lie to themselves than to admit that they have lost control and need the help of a professional alcohol detox center.
Frequent Lies Alcoholics Tell You or Themselves
When your loved one lies, it puts you in a tough position. You want to believe them, but their track record is questionable. One of the best ways to tell if an alcoholic is lying is to know what lies to listen for.
The most common lies alcoholics tell involve:
Downplaying or hiding how much they consumed
Saying they didn’t drink when they did
Telling you that everyone was drinking when they weren’t
Citing a false reason for their drinking
Lying about where they are going or not telling you at all
Claiming they can stop anytime they want
Blaming others for their drunken mistakes (DUI, alcohol-related injury, etc.)
Comparing their drinking habits to more severe cases of alcoholism
Along with listening for common lies alcoholics tell, pay attention to what their bodies and tone of voice are saying. Looking down, avoiding eye contact, fidgeting, speaking in a high pitch voice, clearing their throat, stumbling over words, or taking long pauses before speaking are all indications that someone could be lying. Instead of just their words, their bodies could give them away, so pay attention to these clues.
What to Do If Someone Is Lying About Their Drinking
If your loved one continues to make up lies about their drinking habits, then it is likely that their drinking has become problematic. The first step you should take is trying to talk to them about these issues. If they are in denial themselves, this talk may not go so well, but stay calm. If several attempts to get them help have fallen to the wayside, you may need professional help. Our Boca alcohol intervention specialist may be able to help open their eyes and accept that they do in fact have a problem that requires treatment.
When your loved one has a substance abuse problem, it can be difficult to know what you should and should not do. Let us step in.
At Banyan Boca, we will work with you. If you call us today at 888-280-4763, we will see how we may be able to help your loved one find sobriety.
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Alyssa is Banyan’s Director of Digital Marketing & Technology. After overcoming her own struggles with addiction, she began working in the treatment field in 2012. She graduated from Palm Beach State College in 2016 with additional education in Salesforce University programs. A part of the Banyan team since 2016, Alyssa brings over 5 years of experience in the addiction treatment field.